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-- he may feel hurt.' 'Don't do that -- mum won't like it.' 'Don't behave in this way -- the father is old; he may be shocked.' So one goes on controlling.
By and by the truth is dropped into the basement of your being, and you become very clever and cunning with the untrue. You go on smiling -- false smiles, which are just painted on the lips. You go on saying good things -- meaning nothing. You are getting bored with your boyfriend or your father, but you go on saying 'How glad I am to see you!' And your whole being says 'Now leave me alone!' But verbally you go on pretending. And they are also doing the same thing; nobody becomes aware because we are all moving in the same boat.
A religious person is one who comes out of this boat and risks his life. He says 'Either I want to be true, or I don't want to be at all. But I am not going to be false'.
Whatsoever the stake, try it -- but don't go on moving in a false way. The relationship may be strong enough. It may bear the truth. Then it is very very beautiful. If you cannot be true to the person you love, then where will you be true? Where? If you cannot be true to the person whom you think loves you, if you are afraid even with him to reveal the truth, to be totally spiritually naked before him, if even there you are hiding, then where will you find the place and space where you can be totally free?
That's the meaning of love -- that at least in one person's presence we can he totally nude. We know that he loves, so he will not misunderstand. We know that he loves, so the fear disappears. One can reveal all; one can open all the doors. One can invite the person to come in. One can start participating in another's being.
Love is participation... so at least with the lover, don't be untrue. I'm not saying to go into the marketplace and be true -- because that will create unnecessary trouble right now. But first with the lover, then with the family, then with people who are farther away. By and by you will learn that to be true is so beautiful that you would like to lose everything for it. Then in the marketplace....
Then truth simply becomes your way of life. But start,
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