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another participant, says: I was not letting people close to me at all, and I had said to him in the beginning, too, that I was not open to you either, and it worried me, because why be here?
And then my name keeps bothering me because it sounds very lonely... it's not a very strong name. I would like to be called fearless, or something like that, just to remind me to be stronger.
And I don't know whether to be with people or be alone.]
If you like I can change your name. Just choose whatsoever name you like, and I will give it to you....
Because a name is simply useless. It cannot make you stronger, it cannot make you more aware. A name is just a label....
It is nothing. I can give you a number -- one hundred and one -- and that will not remind you of anything (laughter).
No.... We go on finding some excuse or other to be unhappy. I can change your name -- that is so simple -- but you will find something else, because it is a question of you, not your name.
And being alone is not bad. But it can be enjoyed only if you make a rhythm of being with people and being alone, being with people, being alone. Then it is perfectly beautiful. Otherwise, just being alone you will shrink; you won't grow. Never get fixated anywhere... remain a flow.
Just being alone may be a way to hide yourself. You may be afraid of love. You may be afraid of friendship. You may be afraid of people. A thousand and one fears may be there. So one rationalises that one likes to be alone. Be alone if you like, be alone if you are happy. But you don't seem to be happy. If a name can make you unhappy, then anything can make you unhappy -- anything I say. You can become unhappy because the trees are green. Unhappiness is in you. You find some excuse and you hang it there.
... You should move. But when I say you should move, I don't mean destroy your loneliness completely. You will be more alone if you move with people. Your aloneness will have a depth and a richness if you move with people. You earn it.
[Osho went on to compare the rhythm of aloneness and togetherness with fasting and eating, saying that if you do either to excess,
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