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you can go. That is not the problem at all. But you will not be happy. You will be in a worse situation....
So that is not going to help. It is hard to be here, I know, but if you cooperate with me, everything will drop. Things are not hopeless at all.
Everybody has to come to certain understandings -- because we go on living in dreams. Whenever something of the real is encountered, one becomes afraid and miserable and wants to change the situation, to escape from the situation -- not to look at it. That's why you don't want to look at me (chuckling) because if you look at me you will have to see the real.
If you look at me you will have to look at the facts. Facts are facts. You cannot change them by just becoming unhappy. They can be changed -- but a certain understanding will be needed .
When we are together, friendship and love are good -- but one should never be in the delusion that one can drown one's aloneness in them. Nobody can. It is not that it is you who cannot drown your aloneness -- nobody can, because aloneness is a quality of your being. It is how existence is.
Aloneness is absolutely natural, and there is nothing wrong in it, but we have wrong attitudes about it. Aloneness is your freedom. It is your space. And it is good that you have a space inside where nobody can come; an absolute privacy where you are alone. And once you know how to use it, it is tremendously beautiful. It is the shrine of your innermost core. It is the only temple there is.
But we go on somehow trying to avoid it through relationships, through work, hobbies. Somehow we don't want to come to it, because from the very beginning everybody is taught and brought up in such a way that one starts feeling loneliness as death. Neither loneliness nor death are wrong. Both have tremendous beauties. But one has to enter into them and earn that beauty.
And whatsoever you do, aloneness can never be destroyed. You can hide it, you can cover it up. You can forget about it in a relationship -- but again and again you will come to it. Again and again it will erupt into consciousness, because all escapes are just repressions. So the better course
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