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being. And just remember one thing -- one should not cause any misery for anybody unnecessarily. But there are a few moments when it may be necessary. So the first thing to remember is your own feeling. Whatsoever you want to do, do, but do it in such a way that nobody is harmed; nobody is pained unnecessarily. Manage it in such a way. It is a great art -- to do your thing without being cruel to others. There is no need to be cruel.
There are many people who really want to be cruel to other people, and that's why they insist on doing their own thing. They are not interested in doing their own thing. Whatsoever can cause misery to others, they say 'This is our thing. This is what we want to do'.
So always remember that this should not be the situation. Do your thing, but there is no need to cause any misery for anybody. Avoid that as much as you can. It is good... it pays. Because once you start causing misery to other people, they will start causing misery to you. In the long run it is not going to help you, and it is not going to help you to do your thing, because we are related.
That's the whole art of being with people. You are different, they are different, but we still depend on each other. So we have to consider others. I am not saying only consider others and never consider yourself. Then it is pointless. You go on satisfying everybody, and you remain unsatisfied. That too is a deep problem. If you are unsatisfied, you cannot satisfy anybody. You may try, but only a person who is deeply contented with himself can feel for others and can help others also to be contented.
So it is not only in your self-interest to do your thing. Ultimately it helps you to help others also. Because once you are doing your own thing, you are so happy that your happiness goes on spreading around, ripples go on all around. And in your happiness you become helpful.
But it is a very delicate balance, mm? I don't say consider others. I say consider yourself -- but if you consider yourself really, you consider others also, because you are not separate, you are not alone. I~o man is an island... we are connected to everybody. So if I am to be happy
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