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an island... we are connected to everybody. So if I am to be happy I have to look all around to see that others should be happy, otherwise I cannot be.
So consider others for your own self-interest. I teach selfishness, but if you are really selfish you will be altruistic.
Don't be stubborn, mm? -- otherwise for small things one becomes very egoistic, and one doesn't see the proportion -- that for nothing you are causing so much misery, and people are going to take revenge. It is not worth it... drop it. Or do it in such a way that nobody feels that you are offending them.
When Roosevelt, the american president, died, just a few days before somebody asked him, 'What is your great secret in being so successful with people?' He said, 'My secret was this: that whatsoever I wanted, I always created a situation in which other people felt that they got what they wanted.'
He would call a conference and he would not suggest what he wanted, but would call twenty people and ask them what they wanted. Of course when twenty people are making suggestions, you can always find your suggestion somewhere.
It is... life is a game. Life is a game. If you want to be happy and you want that others should be happy, you have to learn the gamesmanship. One has to be very skillful. All other games are nothing before this big game of life.
.... And it gave satisfaction to the other person that his suggestion has been accepted. And Roosevelt was just looking for his suggestion to come from somewhere, and wit~ twenty people it can be managed.
It is like a symphony, a great orchestra. If one person is hurt, he will destroy the whole orchestra. If there are fifty members playing, each one is needed to cooperate. If one person simply is not cooperating, goes astray, he will destroy the whole orchestra. Life is an orchestra.
In your life, hundreds of people are involved. They are playing the music -- you are not alone. You may be the centre. musician in the orchestra, but still there are others whose cooperation is needed. You cannot play solo -- because you cannot be solo.
Just think of yourself as alone, left on the earth, everybody
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