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chosen only by a miserable person. Even if you choose a person who is happy, he will not choose you unless you are happy. Why should he get into trouble? Who wants to get into hell?
So this is my suggestion, that before you start choosing a person, moving into a relationship, try to learn to be happy alone, otherwise you will choose a wrong person. And between two wrong persons a relationship is impossible. That is what is happening all over the world. People relate in search of happiness and just the opposite happens: more misery, more tears, more agony, more anguish.
So be here... start meditating. Whenever you feel sad, sit silently and allow sadness to come; don't try to escape from it. Make yourself as sad as you can. Don't avoid it -- that's the one thing to remember. Cry, weep... have the whole taste of it. Cry to death... fall down on the earth... roll -- and let it go by itself. Don't force it to go; it will go, because nobody can remain in a permanent mood.
When it goes you will be unburdened, absolutely unburdened, as if the whole gravitation has disappeared and you can fly, weightless. That is the moment to enter yourself. First bring sadness. The ordinary tendency is not to allow it, to find some ways and means so that you can look somewhere else -- to go to the restaurant, to the swimming pool, meet friends, read a book or go to a movie, p!ay on the guitar -- but do something, so that you can be engaged and you can put your attention somewhere else.
This is to be remembered -- when you are feeling sad, don't lose the opportunity. Close the doors, sit down, and feel as sad as you can, as if the whole world is just a hell. Go deep into it... sink into it. Allow every sad thought to penetrate you, every sad emotion to stir you. And cry and weep and say things -- say them loudly, there is nothing to worry about.
[She answers: I'm very inhibited around other people.]
Don't be worried. These other people are also in the same plight. And my sannyasins are not in any way... mm? They will understand -- and even if they don't understand, why be worried about their misunderstanding?...
Mm mm, it is an excuse.
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