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solving other people's miseries. But if you are happy, you will attract somebody who is not in all these neurotic trips; who is simply happy and would like to share with you.
And this is the beauty of it: if you are happy and a relationship happens, you feel good, you share, but you are not dependent on it. You don't become a slave, you don't become addicted to it, because you can be happy without it.
A good relationship is a sharing; there is no dependence. Both partners remain totally free and independent. Nobody possesses -- there is no need. It is a free gift... I have so much, so I give it to you. There is no need -- I can be alone and perfectly happy.
When two persons are in love and both can be alone and happy, then tremendously beautiful love happens, because they are not hindering each other in any way in their growth. They remain completely free.
Have you read Kahlil Gibran's 'The Prophet'?
A woman asks that Almustafa say something to them about marriage. Almustafa says: '... And stand together yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.'
Love, but remain independent; love remains separate. Never lose your inner space. Always retain your being -- like pillars of a temple supporting the same roof of love, the same temple of love, but still independent, far apart. Never come too close to a person. Intimacy is not closeness. Intimacy is a totally different dimension. It has nothing to do with physical closeness.
Too close, and you start hindering the growth of the other. One starts possessing the other, is afraid of losing the other, is addicted. Now the need is more important than anything else. When love becomes a need, a necessity, then love becomes ugly. When love is simply a luxury, then it is beautiful. When I say luxury, I mean you can be without it; there is necessity for it. You can enjoy it but it is just a luxury.
[To another sannyasin, too happy to speak, Osho says:]
Go higher and higher and higher. There is no limit to it, so never be satisfied. Whatsoever you have, always be happy with it,
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