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become bifurcated... you will become a schizophrenic: one part going this way, another part going that way. A house divided is always in danger. Any moment it can collapse.
So you decide. I don't say decide for Prakash -- I'm not saying that -- but decide. If you really want to be happy, be decisive. It takes courage to decide -- almost a gambler's courage -- but this is how life is, mm? Nothing is cheap in life -- at least not love. It demands. And that is the beauty of it -- that it demands. That very demand gives you a tone, a spirit... integrity, individuality.
And things are going so well between you two. Just help them... they can go even better. There is no end to it.
[A sannyas says: I feel very self-critical. After social encounters I'm always thinking about what I said, what I could have said.]
Mm... that's a bad habit. Self-awareness is good, but self-criticism is not good, because it is never to the point. When the moment is gone, then you criticise yourself. Awareness is in the present and criticism is about the past. You cannot undo it, you cannot re-do it. It is gone, and gone forever; nothing can be done about it. It is simply foolish to waste even a single moment thinking about it, because again in thinking about it, you are wasting the present, again doing the same. Be aware in whatsoever -- relationship, work, meditation... whatsoever it is.
When something is there, when something is happening, be aware; never be critical. Because in that moment of awareness, something can be transformed. If you are alert, you may not do many things; you will do other things. If you are aware, you will not be able to make the mistakes that you go on criticising. Awareness has never been anything for which there is any possibility for repentance. A man who is aware, never repents. Whatever he could not do, he has not done. There is no point in pitying oneself, in criticising oneself, feeling sorry for oneself; they are all diseases. So drop that.
And it is an ego-trip. You do something and then you start improving on it in the mind. That simply shows that you have done something which falls below the image of your ego.
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