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will be interested in what has happened... call them, tell them. Just show them a few meditations, and a few are bound to be interested. Then things start rolling, mm?
[A sannyasin says: About four months ago you told me to be celibate, and I have been....
I went deep in meditation and I did the Vipassana course, but now I want a relationship as well.
Well a week ago I met somebody and now we re living together. I feel confused though because I feel there's a big gap between how I relate to people and the feelings I have in meditation.
And Kabir has a very different personality to me, he's very extroverted... but there feels to be good energy between us.]
So continue. There is no need to force anything. If you feel like keeping silent, keep silent. If the relationship is there it goes on communicating itself even through silence. And if it is not there, even talking makes no difference; even in talking you are talking to yourself -- it is not a communication.
So you remain yourself, because any relationship in which you have to do something which is against your nature is not going to last. Ultimately nature wins, so always remain true to your nature.
[She answers: Yes... it feels impossible sometimes.]
No, nothing is impossible, nothing is impossible.
And as far as relationship goes, it is always impossible. (a chuckle). To relate with somebody is one of the greatest arts. Nobody is born with it. We are born with a desire to relate, not with the art of how to do it. And everybody has taken it for granted that he knows how to relate -- that's the problem.
A relationship is always very very difficult because the other person is another world, and between two worlds there exists no common language. In fact there is continuous clash. The closer you come, the more and more clashes will be there. Far away, everything goes well because the clash is not possible. For a clash to happen, you have to come close. When you come close, problems arise.
So a relationship is difficult, almost impossible -- but I am not discouraging you. I'm simply saying learn how to relate. The impossibility is there
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