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remains hungry, and the essence is not fed. So the essence becomes more and more sad. The lies of the personality are a very heavy burden on the essence, on the soul. The risk is real, and there is no guarantee for it -- but I will tell you that the risk is worth taking.
At the most, the relationship can break -- at the most. But it is better to be separate and to be real rather than being unreal and together -- because then it is never going to be satisfying. Benediction will never come out of it. You will remain hungry and thirsty, and you will go on dragging, just waiting for some miracle to happen.
For the miracle to happen you will have to do something, and that is -- start being true, at the risk that maybe the relationship is not strong enough and may not be able to bear it. The truth may be too much, unbearable -- but then that relationship is not worthwhile. So that test has to be passed.
Risk everything for truth, otherwise you will remain discontented. You will do many things, but nothing will really happen to you. You will move much, but you will never arrive anywhere, mm? The whole effect will be almost absurd.
It is as if vou are hungry and vou simply fantasise about food; beautiful, delicious. But fantasy is fantasy -- it is not real. You cannot eat unreal food. For moments you can delude yourself -- you can live in a dreamlike world -- but a dream is not going to give you anything. It will take many things from you -- and it will not give you anything in return. The time that you are using with a false personality is simply wasted; it will never come back to you again. Those same moments could have been real, authentic. Even a single moment of authenticity is better than a whole life of inauthentic living.
So don't be afraid. The mind will say to you to go on safeguarding the other and yourself, to keep safe. That's how millions of people are living.
Freud in his last days wrote in a letter to a friend that as far as he had observed.... And he really observed deeply -- nobody has observed so deeply, so penetratingly, so persistently and so scientifically. He says in the letter that as far as he has observed
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