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never be fulfilled. He said she chose people not for themselves but for their inaccessibility, and that if they became available she would drop the idea of pursuing them.
She said she felt she either tried to keep people away or would simply go and grab at them -- and that didn't work either.... ]
Go and do that! Do something. And I'm not joking when I say to go and do it. Do it! I mean business!
You will be very happy once you get out of this circle you have created for yourself, this very self-destructive structure which is almost suicidal. If you don't love you go on destroying your life. Love is life, and through love all other doors of prayer and God and everything, open. If the door of love is closed, you are left alone like a desert island and then there is no way to go anywhere. Then you get more and more fed up with yourself.
People take pride in being suicidal -- drop that pride. Just look at the fact. And every human being is beautiful. Don't ask the impossible -- just find someone who is available.
There are women, I know, who will become interested only in a married person, because then they can create trouble. If the person is not married they are not interested. This is their mathematics: if he were worth something, some other woman would have got hold of him before. Nobody has bothered about him -- he is still a bachelor -- so it certainly proves that he is not worth worrying about. At least he is not of the standard they would like.
Once the man has a woman then other women start becoming interested. He must have something! They are more interested in creating jealousy in the other woman than love in the man.
They are more interested in defeating the other woman. Their whole seduction, their whole coquetry, will be concerned with the woman: how they can defeat the woman; how they can prove themselves to be better looking, more loving, more beautiful, more charming, and that the other woman is nothing. Once the woman has broken away from the man they will not be interested in the man at all. The whole purpose is finished.
So never do that... that is ugly. And it is not going to help you, because
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