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dead. He will miss the whole of life. He will live in a sort of stupor. Or if he becomes reactive, and whatsoever you say, he denies, then too there is danger -- he may move to the other extreme. Balance is what is needed.
When you bring up children in a climate of freedom, there is no need for the child to become stupid, and there is no need for the child to become reactionary. Then out of the child's growing consciousness, a sort of discipline arises which is not enforced from the outside... which arises from within him, from his own core of being.
So give as much freedom as possible -- one thing -- and she will turn into a great sannyasin.
And the second thing -- give as much love as you can... and it is never too much! So never be miserly about love. The whole world is suffering because the mothers have been too miserly... they have not loved. They talk about love, but they have not loved. Their love is just lukewarm -- it is not passionate.
Maybe they fulfill a social formality. They have to do certain duties so they do them, but it has no passion in it. When love has no passion, it is of no use -- it freezes the soul of the child. So love passionately. God is born to you! New life has entered through you! Be grateful, be thankful -- your prayers have been heard.
Love as much as you can, and never be worried that too much can spoil. Love is never too much, and love has never spoiled anybody. What spoils is not exactly too much love.... Sometimes it appears as if too much love has spoiled a child; it is not really love that has spoiled -- the parents never loved the child, and then they overcompensated.
The mother feels no love for the child, so she brings too many toys to overcompensate. The mother does not love the child, but then she goes on giving cookies and ice cream, mm? just to compensate. She yields to any nonsense of the child because she feels guilty that she has not loved. If you really love the child, you never overcompensate -- there is not need: you are never guilty.
If you really love the child, there are moments when you can say a strict 'no' and the child will understand. If you love the child,
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