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too, and the child will understand. If you don't love the child, you always have to be polite and soft. That spoils. It is cunningness -- that compensation, it is not love.
So these three things: First, give as much freedom as possible; second, give as much love as possible; and third, never give any ideology, never give your ideas.
Let the child be acquainted with everything that is possible -- your ideas included -- but only acquainted. No need for the child to follow your ideas. Just tell the child to choose on his own. If these three things, simple things, can be followed... and you will have to, mm? because I cannot make the child right now responsible. Until the child is grown-up, you have to fulfill this requirement. And if you can, you will be happy, and the child will be too.
Anand means bliss, and sudheera means wise, wisdom; blissful wisdom. And I make it a condition: if wisdom becomes serious, loses the quality of joy, it is worthless... it is dead. When wisdom is happy, bubbling with joy, when wisdom can laugh, when wisdom can dance, when wisdom can enjoy the small, ordinary things of life, then only is it alive and real and authentic. So remember that.
There is a tendency in humanity to either remain foolish, ignorant... then people are very happy. Their happiness is superficial. Deep down there is turmoil, but they can laugh. When these same people become interested in religion, spirituality, they become very serious. Now their seriousness has a depth, but it loses laughter. Again they become lop-sided.
Somewhere a deep synthesis is needed where you can be ordinary and extraordinary together... when you can enjoy the very ordinary life with extraordinary wisdom... when you can be even foolish sometimes.
A real wiseman is capable of being foolish too. If a wiseman cannot be foolish, he is not relaxed, he is very tense. If a wiseman cannot sometimes be like a small child, he has not yet attained. Then it is knowledgability, but not wisdom. He is pretending. He may have come to accumulate much knowledge, but deep down he remains the same. He is afraid... still afraid!
The real wise person is always childish.
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