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If she feels something has happened in you, it will be a natural, spontaneous thing for her to enter into things. And it is more difficult when the relationship is that of a mother and a son, father and a son; it is more difficult. It is very difficult for the parents to understand that their son can be wise -- it is very difficult. It is almost impossible! She has known you from the very beginning -- she knows how foolish you have been!
When she talks about you to others she will make a hero of you -- that's another thing -- but she knows how foolish he is -- and now he has got into this! She cannot believe it. The difference will always remain the same; your age difference will always remain the same. For the mother you can never grow. If you are twenty years apart, you remain twenty years. You may become fifty, then she will be seventy; you will become seventy, she will be ninety. That twenty years gap always remains the same.
A mother can never think that you have become grown. That is part of mother's love -- she always regards you as her child. So when the child starts propagating something, the mother thinks, 'You yourself are a fool, and you are trying to make a fool of me too.'
Never do that. Take care, mm? whatsoever her needs, they are to be fulfilled, do, mm? And don't come between me and her -- let it be direct. It will be easier.
Never argue. Argument never convinces anybody. At the most you can silence somebody -- but that is not conviction. Argument irritates and the other also tends to argue, because it becomes a ego fight. It is not a question of whether what you are saying is right or wrong; it is a question of, 'You are saying it -- and you are trying to prove me wrong?' It is always a question of, 'Me wrong or you wrong?' It is not a question of truth. So all arguments create an irritation. Then a counter-argument is created.
Never argue! and never look at it in this way at all. If she does not feel good here, she does not feel good... and that too is good! That's okay. The whole world cannot feel good here, everybody cannot feel good here -- and that's how it should be. She knows what is good for her. If she
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