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that will be losing the argument.
I have never argued with my own parents -- never! I would go to my village, and they would always ask, 'What do you go on doing?' I would always avoid telling them. They had to enquire of other people what I was doing and what was happening. Many other people would tell them that this is happening and that is happening. It was unbelievable -- their own son! Nothing has happened to them, and so much is happening to everybody -- how can they believe it? I would never say anything to them.... I would go and just be with them.
By and by they started coming to the camps, and other people would say, 'Why don't you take sannyas?' They waited for me to say something but I never told them to. I knew that if I said to them to take sannyas, they would, but even to say it would be violent. Maybe they were not ready, and they could not say no, so it would be interfering. I never asked them!
Many people would say to me that they were ready, they were waiting for me, but I said, 'I am not going to say anything. If they are ready, some day they will ask me.' And when my father asked me, only then I initiated him into sannyas, so then it was just a total revolution in my father. I had to wait for it. Then his ego simply disappeared! If there had been even a slight effort from my side, he would have resisted.
And a very rare phenomenon has happened. Buddha tried with his own father and it was difficult; jesus tried with his own father and it was difficult. I have succeeded because I never tried -- that is the key!
So don't.... Otherwise you will become worried, and you will become tense, mm? because you have brought her with so many ideas -- that she may become happy and she may become a sannyasin -- and now you see that she is not getting into things. You will become worried and anxious, and your anxiety will not be good. Be relaxed! Your relaxation will be the greatest argument possible.
If she can see that you are not even anxious to convert her, then there is a possibility.... And there is no hurry! Leave it to me -- I can persuade people! (laughter)
I have already persuaded her! (laughter)
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