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anxious to convert her, then there is a possibility.... And there is no hurry! Leave it to me -- I can persuade people! (laughter)
I have already persuaded her! (laughter)
[To the mother:] Just be here and enjoy. Nothing to be worried about, mm? If something is going to happen, it is going to happen. If there is something, it will click, and then nothing bars the past. All the conditionings, and all the concepts, and all the ideologies -- nothing can prevent it.
There is no need to be worried about it at all. Mm? I am happy that you are here. This time you are for him -- next time you will be for me... but just be here. This time you are via -- next time you will be direct. Nothing to be worried about. Just enjoy!
If you can do a few meditations, do. Get into some meditations, some dancing and singing.
[A sannyasin, weeping, says: Something that came up during primal was that even though I see what my parents did to me I'm still doing the same thing to my kid. So many times my own needs get in the way of what she needs. I can't seem to give her any help. And I think I'm doing her harm.]
Mm mm. One thing to be understood -- that ordinarily what-soever has been done by your parents becomes an engrained pattern; that is the only way you know what is to be done with the child. Whatsoever your mother did to you, that is the only way you know how to be with your child. So it is natural -- nothing to be worried about -- but now that you have become conscious that something has gone wrong in it.... It is good that you have become conscious, but now don't become worried about it so much, other-wise you will not be able to do anything. You are conscious that something that your mother did to you, you would not like to do to your child -- so become conscious; that's all that you can do! Whatsoever you are doing, become conscious.
And don't try to overcompensate -- that's what I think you are trying to do. Now you think you are not enough -- you are not giving enough love, enough care -- but whatsoever you can give, you can give! How can you give more? Do your utmost, and if you cannot do more, don't get depressed about it, otherwise
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