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will not know what to do with the mother.
Whatsoever you are, that you have to share with the child. And whatsoever happens to the child, the child has to take her own responsibility too!
Now, in the american mind, this is such an absurd notion -- you go to the psychoanalyst and he will say that something is wrong between you and your mother, so your mother is responsible. Now he has taken responsibility away from you... it feels very good. Even grown-up people are so foolish, mm? -- lying down in a foolish way on a psychoanalyst's couch, saying silly things, and the psychoanalyst says, 'You are perfectly right -- it is just because of your mother and your relationship with the mother, so your mother is responsible.'
And who is responsible for the mother? -- her mother! And who is responsible for her mother? so on and so forth. Finally you find eve! Nobody seems to be responsible then.
I don't say that they are absolutely wrong -- nobody is ever absolutely wrong -- but people are only extremists, and extremism is wrong. Yes, your mother is a little responsible because she was your mother. Your father is a little responsible, but finally, you are responsible!
Whatsoever you have made yourself, others have helped, but in the ultimate analysis you are responsible.
This is one of the basic things religion teaches: you are responsible. Once you feel that you are responsible, you become free; you have a freedom to choose. And then you are no more worried about the past because how can you undo the past? The mother has happened, the birth has happened -- now what to do with it? It is gone!
If you are aware, in this moment of intense awareness, the whole past can be burned out. There is no need for any primal therapy. It is only for mediocre minds that you have to go into such things. If you are really intelligent, just a single moment of awareness -- it is finished! The past is no more there! You can cut yourself away from it in a single stroke. There is no need to go inch by inch.
In a single stroke of understanding, you can cut yourself away from the past -- that's what I mean by sannyas.
So just be natural,
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