| |
across the belief and go on emphasising it: 'I am functioning wrongly because of this.' This becomes a vicious circle. Then they are more limited. Drop that idea completely. It is just a circle that you or others have helped you to draw around yourself.
That is the whole function of my being here -- to make you unlimited, because you are.
Limitations exist only in your belief. It is a suggestion, an auto-hypnosis. It is very real when it is there, but drop it and suddenly you will laugh. It is very ridiculous. Start working and soon it will disap-pear. Don't be worried about it.
[A sannyasin says: For the first I find that I'm not dependent on the care of a woman. But there's a small boy inside me who doesn't like to be shouted at, who doesn't want to be blamed.]
... tell the hypno-therapist about your problem so he can work on it. Then we will decide. It will go; there is nothing to be worried about.
One day one has to become independent of a constant need of being cared for by a woman. That is the day that one becomes mature. That is the day when you are finished with your mother, and that is the day you can start loving a woman. Otherwise in every woman you will go on searching for your mother. Then it is going to be false love. It is going to be political. Because you need the care, you pretend to love, but that is not mature love. You are like a child hanging onto the mother's skirt. If you continue that you will never know what love is.
One has to finish with this dependence. When you are finished with it, for the first time you will be able to decide whether you love this woman or not, because now there is no need; now you can share. When there is no need, love flowers.
Love flowers only when needs have disappeared. A love happens only between a king and a queen -- neither is in any need.
Love is the most luxurious thing in the world. It is not a need -- it is the last luxury, the ultimate in luxuries. If you are needing it it is just as other needs; one needs food, one needs shelter, one needs clothes, one needs this and that. Then love is also part of this world.
When there is no need and you
|
|
|