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he has given you life -- you take a message to him of another life. He has given you birth -- help him to meditate so he can be reborn. Then you have paid the debt.
... Bring a few of my books to him, and when he can read.... Or you can read him my books and he can listen to tapes.
[A therapist asks about his new relationship; that he finds it difficult to receive love, rather than to give it.]
Mm mm, the mind is very afraid of love, so you have to consciously drop those defenses, otherwise love will never happen. You can go on giving; giving is not difficult for the mind. The ego remains perfectly guarded. In fact it feels very good, enhanced, that you are giving love, sharing love; you have so much love to give. The problem arises only when you have to take it; somebody is giving and you have to receive it. When you become the receiving end, then the problem arises. When you are giving you have the upper hand.
When you are receiving you have to be humble, because only in deep humanity can love be received. That's the problem. The ego cannot allow itself to be humble, because in humility it disappears. So whenever I say, 'Love,' people think they have to love, but that is only the beginning. The culmination comes only when you receive and when you allow others to love you. Then you are completely defenseless. Then you don't know where you are going, what is happening to you.
So you will have to do it self-consciously, otherwise you will not be able to do it. You have to be consciously alert. And whenever you feel that you are blocking, somebody is giving and you are becoming hard, stiff, and not allowing lit in, relax. Say, 'Yes.' Make 'yes' your mantra. Whenever you see that something deep down is going stiff, hard, won't allow any penetration, say yes and relax.
(to the girlfriend) And remember it, you have to help him. When you feel that he is defensive, make all the more effort to love him, because ordinarily this is how it happens. If the other feels that you are defensive, the other starts withdrawing because she feels that she is being rejected. So when you feel that he is defensive, don't leave him. Just jump on
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