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Now he becomes too involved with the woman, his whole mind is turned towards the woman; he tends to forget about me.
But whenever love is flowing easily and there is not any fear or obsession about it -- one is neither very much in it nor very much against it; when things are normal, in the middle -- then you relate with me very deeply and very easily. A happy couple -- not in their honeymoon, the honeymoon is over and they have settled -- if they are here, they relate to me very easily, very simply. The juices are flowing, there is no fear, and there is no honeymoon either so that they have to pay their whole attention to the woman or to the man.
That may have caused it....
I think you should start moving with women a little, start growing into love. And there is no need to fall in love madly, mm? otherwise that will do the same thing again. Love should be taken as a very very natural phenomenon. Just as one eats and drinks and goes to sleep, so one loves. Down the ages people have either worshipped love or have condemned it; both attitudes are wrong and lopsided. Either they think love is the door to hell, mm? so saints go on condemning it, or they think love is the only heaven, so poets go on praising it. Both are wrong.
Love is neither hell nor heaven. It is a natural phenomenon like breathing, like eating, like sleeping. A normal healthy person, a psychologically healthy person, will take love just as a nourishment. There is nothing to brag about in it; it is not worship. And there is no need to be afraid of it. It is neither from god nor the devil; it is just human nature.
Keep that in mind and start moving into a love relationship, but take it very naturally. That will help the juices flow.
[Another sannyasin is not happy because she and her partner as splitting up.]
That's good, it is nothing to be worried about. Mm? these are the games one has to learn to play: separation and meeting and separation. These are the games; don't be too worried about it. It naturally shakes one because everything gets disturbed. So, find somebody else! All human beings are potential lovers, so there is no need to be focused unnecessarily.
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