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But that is possible only when both the persons are grown-up, mature, and have no hangovers from the past. Then there is a different kind of meeting.
So if you just want to be happy -- to have just a very ordinary happiness -- you can find someone. There are people who don't want a woman, who want a baby. That's why husbands call the wife 'baby' and things like that; that is stupid.
So find somebody who wants to call his beloved 'baby'; that means he has something for you. He wants a baby. Man's ego feels very satisfied when the woman becomes a baby. Then you are completely helpless; you have to depend on him totally. He is the provider, he is the master of the house and you are just a child. He enjoys protecting you, patronising you... but this is an ill thing. You are not a baby any more.
When are you going to be grown up? -- because grown-upness has its own joys. Those you will miss. And they are far superior to being a helpless baby, but for them you will have to unlearn something in the past.
Go through primal and rebirthing, and really go into them -- because this is of great importance for your whole life. Otherwise one day or other you will find a man who is interested in being a father and you will settle. People will call this a very happy marriage. It will not be a marriage at all, because how can an old father be married to a small baby? -- there is such distance. But you will be happy because you will not need to be responsible, and he will be happy because you will be completely dependent on him. His ego will be fulfilled; your irresponsibility will be fulfilled. But there will be no joy, no love; you will not grow out of that relationship.
I call a relationship ill when people don't grow in it, when they are stuck in it. Growth is the criterion of health: anything that is healthy goes on growing. When something stops growing, that means death is coming; it is no more healthy.
It is time that you get out of this, mm? So rather than moving into relationships, go into these groups. Good!
[Osho assigned some groups to an Indian sannyasin, who reports that he cannot find any reality inside, not even an ego
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