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same game, the same game, it loses taste and meaning.
This type of exercise is of tremendous value -- each couple should learn it.... Because she is not just your beloved -- no person can be defined by any single relationship, a person is such a vast entity. She is a mother too, she is a daughter too, she is a sister too. She is the whole humanity -- so are you!
Each person carries a world within him, and if you really want to know the person you have to know him from all the angles possible. Then two persons can remain charmed by each other for infinity, because then no role is ever fixed. And after a few days when you are again wife and husband, for a change sometimes, then it is beautiful, it is something new! Then it is as if you are meeting after many many days.
So make it alternative... and the other exercise will be even more meaningful, because a woman naturally tends to be a mother. Even a small girl tends to be a mother -- all the games of girls are of being a mother -- and a man, even an aged man, tends to be a child. So whenever a man falls in love he becomes a fool -- immediately -- because he becomes a child, and he starts doing things he himself will think are foolish.
Man is basically a child and a woman is basically a mother, so the other one you will enjoy even more. And different kinds of love will arise because a mother has a different kind of love flowing -- it is non-sexual, it has more of compassion in it and no passion; it has a different flavour.
And a child has no sexuality, at least not that he is aware of. His relationship with the mother is certainly more deep-rooted than any other relationship, because a child lives in the mother's womb for nine months. (To the man) So when you think about her and meditate on her being your mother, you become very deeply rooted in her -- there is no other way to be so deeply rooted in a woman.
Go on playing this game. This is a very beautiful process, and it will help your meditation.
But change it: one day this way, another day... otherwise this will become fixed. Change is always good, and always find ways and means to relate with the person in a new
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