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a new situation. Never get into a routine. Then the relationship is always flowing. There are always surprises, and it is good to surprise the other and be surprised by the other; then the relationship is never dead.
Once surprises are finished and you know the whole map of the woman and the woman knows the whole map of you, then the relationship is almost finished. You can carry it on, but it will be just a duty now; it will not have that charm, that magnetism. That romance will not be there... it will not have any poetry. It will have a certain grammar and structure but it will not have any poetry.
You continue, mm? make it a point. And many things are involved in it. This is not a simple process; there are great implications in it. Every girl wants to make love to the father.
... Every girl wants to compete with the mother and possess the father. And girls, small girls, start becoming very coquettish, they start flirting -- and the father is their first love object, naturally.
And it is so with the boy too: the boy wants to make love to the mother and he wants to compete with the father.
He is very disturbed in seeing that the father is more deeply related with the mother: their intimacy is too much and he is not allowed in that intimacy.
Even fathers start feeling jealous of the boy, of the son, because the son is so close to the mother, continuously hangs around the mother, and the father starts feeling as if the son is some other man. The small boy tries to pretend that he is a man; he wants to possess the woman.
These are fantasies from the childhood If husbands and wives can fulfill these fantasies, their minds will uncoil and these deeply repressed things will disappear. They will become more open, more simple, more innocent.
Nothing is wrong in the girl's idea of possessing the father. It is simple, very simple -- because that is the first man she has come to know and naturally she falls in love. That is her first love, and so is the boy's first love his mother.
In fact every man is searching for his mother again and again in every woman. Whenever you fall in love with a woman, watch deeply,
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