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Not that you have to remain together, but how can you separate? Then something of the eternal has penetrated -- you are joined by god.
That is the meaning of the old term 'married in heaven' -- not in the church! If that one moment of eternity happens, then you have known the other and the other has known you. And this knowledge does not destroy your mystery -- in fact for the first time it opens the door to the innermost mystery.
This knowledge does not destroy the unknown. This knowledge proves that the unknown is unknowable!
[Another couple said that they wanted their relationship to go deeper. The sexual side of their relationship has not been happening. They are more like brother and sister.]
No, you have not been able to understand what is happening -- you have missed. You both have failed to look into what is happening. If love goes deeper this is what happens!
If love goes deeper, husbands and wives become brothers and sisters. If love goes deeper the sun-energy becomes moon-energy: the heat is gone, it is very cool. And when love goes deeper this misunderstanding that is happening to you also happens... because we have become accustomed to that fever, passion, that excitement, and now it looks all foolish. It is foolish! Now if you make love it looks silly; if you don't make love you feel as if something is missing because of the old habit....
So you will have to understand this coolness that is coming. And of course when you start feeling as one, a fear arises. A fear about what is happening -- because if you become too much one person you will start forgetting the other. The other can be remembered only as 'the other'. Psychologists say that when a child starts learning, he first utters the word 'daddy' not 'mummy'. And that hurts the mother, because she has been taking care of the child and she carried the child for nine months, she is with the child for twenty four hours, but when the child utters the first word he calls 'daddy'. The father is just on the periphery and the mother is so close -- the child is betraying her!
But there is a reason to it: the mother is so one with the child that he cannot
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