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you still remain a brother -- it doesn't make any difference. There is no way -- it is irrevocable, you cannot revoke it.
When a husband and wife start feeling so much, a fear arises -- have you started taking the other for granted? Has he become a brother or a sister, and so is no more your choice, no more your ego, no more the ego trip All these fears arise, and the past....
You know now that it is foolish, but still the past habit.... Sometimes one starts feeling that one is missing something -- a sort of emptiness. But don't look at it through the past. Listen to me and look at it from the future.
Much is going to happen in this emptiness, much is going to happen in this intimacy -- you will both disappear. It will become absolutely non-sexual, all heat will be gone, and then you will know a totally different quality of love. That quality that will arise in you I call prayer. But that is still in the future, that has not yet happened -- you are on the way towards it. The past is gone and the future has not come.
This interim period will be a little hard, but don't think of the past. It is gone and it is gone forever -- even if you try you cannot bring it back. It will be so foolish, it will feel so silly. You can drag it back, you can try, but you will fail and that will create more frustration So don't even try. Just be loving in a new way... Let this new-moon love happen.
Hold each other, be loving to each other, care, and don't hanker for the heat -- because that heat was a madness, it was a frenzy; it is good that it is gone. So you should think yourselves fortunate -- don't misunderstand it.
That is going to happen to each lover here -- if he really listens to me and goes deep.... This is the depth you are asking for when you say that you want the love to go deep -- this is the depth! The passionate love is a periphery, the compassionate love is at the centre -- that is the depth.
Just enjoy it: feel blissful, meditate together, dance together. If sex disappears, let it, don't force it. If sometimes it happens, let it happen; if it disappears, let it disappear. By and by, it is going to disappear. Mm? don't
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