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watch deeply, analyse it and you will always find that some characteristic that has appealed to you, belongs to your mother: the way she walks or the way she looks or the eyes or the voice or the way she gets angry. Something is bound to reflect your mother -- that has attracted you.
And so is the case with the woman: she is always searching for the father that she could not get -- and it hurts. It was a failure, her first love affair was a failure: she could not possess the father. In the nature of things the father cannot be possessed, so she will find a man somewhere -- someone who is fatherly or who gives some impression of the father.
You will he surprised -- it happens here every day and it happens all over the world: a woman tends more to fall in love with a married man than with an unmarried man, because the father, the first love affair, was with a married man. She feels more attracted towards a married man than an unmarried man; the unmarried man does not feel to be very attractive. In fact because he is unmarried it simply proves that no woman has yet been interested in him -- it is not worth trying.
And so is the case with a man -- a man also tends to fall in love with a married woman. She feels more attractive because the first love affair, in the deep unconscious, was with a married woman, with the mother.
Just today I was reading....
After the wedding, the father-in-law was kissing his son's beautiful wife rather too ardently.
'Say, pop' called the jealous groom, 'have a heart. After all, it was I who married felice.'
'What's wrong with my kissing your wife?' replied his pop. 'I have often caught you kissing my wife!'
So this is very good -- it has many implications -- continue it.
[A visitor who has been studying yoga asks about it. She says: I was always doing yoga without really discipline.]
You can continue that way. Sometimes it happens that when you do something on your own it may go well, and when you follow a rigid structure it may not fit you. So you have learned, you know. Now follow your feeling, you need not follow any structure.
In fact everybody has to create
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