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it, but there is no need to be disturbed by it. The difference is natural. The group is a special situation... the world is not like that. If the world was like that, there would be no need for the group! The group is needed to give you a glimpse of the world as it should be, but it is not.
So don't expect when you move out that the world is a group -- then you will be in trouble. Learn whatsoever happens in the group, absorb it, but when you come out of it don't expect that the world is going to be the same. You have to move cautiously in the world so that whatsoever you have learned can become part of you. It is not going to become part of the world. The world is not going to be changed by [your being in the group. The world is big and vast. Only you are going to be changed.
So whatsoever you have learned, there are two parts in it. One is something that you can carry out in the world, that belongs to you; and something that cannot be carried out into the world, that belongs to the group. In a group there are two persons -- you and the group. So whatsoever you can carry out -- your awareness, understanding -- carry it out. That will change much. If you are changed you will have a different world around you. The world is not going to be changed. Don't expect that the world is the group. That part has to be left. This discrimination has to be continuously made, and one has to be alert about it.
And of course, in a group, love is not a commitment ... it is a game, so it looks beautiful. But when you come out and you are with [your partner], it is not a game -- it is a commitment.
Many people find it very easy to love strangers, because there is no commitment. I know one woman who will make love only to strangers in trains, in hotels. She will not even ask the name of the man. What is the use of asking the name? -- just a casual meeting and then finished. That simply shows that she is very immature; she is not ready to commit herself. And unless you are ready to commit, you never grow.
A group is a game... three, four days meeting strange people, every type of person, and everybody open and things opening and the whole milieu is
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