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is really dead. Exactly when? When the heart stops, then? When the mind stops, then? When the breathing stops? When? Nobody knows exactly where the line is. But at least death seems to be one hundred percent. Everything else is always approximate.
So don't ask too much; that creates frustration. Whatsoever you receive, enjoy it and feel grateful for it. Thank God that you are a slow walker. Perfectly good! You can enjoy the scenery more... the smell of the earth... the flowers. A runner never enjoys it. He is simply running -- mad! But don't say anything to the runner, mm? because I have to console him also! (much laughter)
[A trainee therapist says: I tend to come on more as a therapist than just as a loving type of person.]
When one first goes on the therapist trip it is a little difficult... it happens to everybody. The therapist takes so much possession of you that you look at everything from that angle -- even one's own love-affair.
I have heard about one psychoanalyst who married a very ugly woman... very very ugly. And everybody was simply surprised; they could not believe it. He was a young handsome man -- flourishing, successful, with a good practice, a name, academic recognition, everything. What had happened to this man?... a very ugly woman. It was almost Impossible to look at her directly -- with one false eye, all teeth false.
So friends asked him, What have you done?' He said, 'I know she is ugly. One eye is false... all her teeth are false. She stinks (laughter) and she has very bad breath. You cannot sit close to her. But boy! what nightmares she has, what nightmares!' A psychoanalyst -- more interested in nightmares!
So this is a honeymoon with therapy, mm? Don't be worried... it goes. Every honeymoon ends -- even with therapy!
[A group member says: I found the first part of the group horrible... I split up with the person I was with before the group... I cannot let myself be close to anyone.]
That has to be so -- it was the negative group. It has to be horrible...
You have to be close to yourself, that's all. Then the other thing always happens on its own accord. The group may have
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