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that nobody knowingly hurts anybody; it all happens in the unconscious.
Nobody wants to hurt anybody -- but it happens, that's true. So never carry wounds. It is not only a question of [your husband. If you carry the wound and the hurt feeling, you will become incapable, by and by, of loving and trusting -- and that is bad. It is not only that [your husband] has hurt you -- he has hurt love. Whenever you move in a love relationship again you will shrink, you will become afraid. Or you will move up to an extent, and not more than that. And that is bad. Persons come and go. One should never become distrustful of love.
Love is bigger than the whole world. One [husband], a thousand and one [husbands] come and go, but nobody should be allowed to disturb the trust in love. Because if that is allowed, you lose all meaning in life. Always remember that when one door doses, another door immediately opens. So don't go on sitting by the closed door. Look somewhere -- one door has opened for you.
Life is always ready to give you more and more and more, but we become clingers. If we are thrown out of one house, we think that now there is no home. It may be that you are just being pushed from one house so that you can enter a palace. One thing is taken away so that you have space enough for another thing to enter.
Always trust life, and always remain open, flowing. Never carry wounds from the past. The gone is gone -- why carry it? If somebody has given you love and pain, why remember the pain? Just remember the love that he gave.
Man is very very helpless. Even if you want to make somebody happy, some inner mechanism does not allow you to. Even sometimes you may have wanted to be with someone but something inside takes you away in spite of you -- as if you are driven, possessed. I see so many people destroying their relationships. They cry and weep -- they don't want to do it, but they feel helpless.
Remember that only a very small part of the mind is conscious -- one tenth; nine tenths is unconscious. And everybody is ruled by the unconscious.
For example, a man falls in love with you. You think he falls in love with you? Something
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