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unconscious is stirred by you. That's why people say, 'We don't know why we have fallen in love.' Hence the word 'fall' -- because one is almost helpless; one cannot do anything about it. Something from the unconscious arises and clouds the whole being.
[Osho went on to say that we find rationalisations for why we are particularly attracted to someone -- but they are just rationalisations, for the ego feels unsettled if it can't find any reason for why one fell in love. One day someone has attracted something in your unconscious so that you believe you are in love, and the next day somebody else stirs something in your unconscious -- and again you are in love. You feel guilty, but you are helpless.... ]
This is how man is -- almost a mechanism, not yet conscious.
And that is my whole effort: to make you so conscious that unconsciousness no more dominates you. You become master of your being.
Then you love a person because you want to, not because the unconscious forces you. Your love has a totally different quality to it. You possess it -- you are not possessed by it. Then love can be a life-long thing, or even can go beyond life, can become eternal.
In the East, and particularly in India, where we have been working with human consciousness for so long -- for almost ten thousand years -- we have tried, and succeeded in many cases, with a couple dying and then being reborn again in the next life and falling in love again. We have managed that for a series of lives the couple remains the same. But that has to be very conscious, absolutely conscious.
Right now you don't know. You may go out on the street and you see a man and immediately something stirs in you. And you are not in control, so what to do? You are in love, madly in love. You try to control it, you try to avoid it, you want to go away, but something like a magnet pulls you. This is what is happening.
In the West, because people are so free now, and everybody is moving in a permissive society, the unconscious has full play. I don't see that any permanent marriage is going to be possible in any way soon; it will be almost impossible. If a couple remains for
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