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clinging. Either we have to cling or we have to drop. Can't you stop in the middle? -- no clinging, no dropping. Only a clinging mind can drop. How can a non-clinging mind drop? -- because he clings not, so there is nothing to drop either.
Be in the middle. The golden mean has to be remembered, otherwise the mind goes from one extreme to another extreme. It moves like a pendulum, and always remains in anxiety. Stop the pendulum in the middle and the clock stops. Stop the mind in the middle and time disappears, time stops.
You need not be separate from him -- be with him -- just don't cling. Can't you be together without clinging? That is the point! To be separate is easy, to be clinging is easy. The real work is to be together but without clinging at all... just being together like two trees standing side by side. They have their roots in the earth but are swaying in the sun and dancing in the wind and in the rain, and enjoying being together -- not clinging to each other at all. Be like two trees together and you will come to know much joy that you have not known.
I can see from your face that you have suffered a lot, and you can be very joyous. And if celebration does not happen here with me, it cannot happen anywhere else. So don't miss this opportunity. Be together, enjoy being together; share your love, your poetry, your music, your silences -- but don't cling. Let the future take its own course. If tomorrow you are together, share again; if you are not together then you are not together. Nothing can be done about it.
We cannot plan and we cannot make it a guarantee. In trying to make the future guaranteed and secure, people destroy all beauty of life and all benediction. So I have not said to separate. This is how the mind goes on interpreting and hearing something which I am not saying. But you are new -- just go on listening to me for a few days and things will be clear. Good.
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[A sannyasin who is leaving says: I feel like I'm opening and I feel very fragile and scared and feverish.]
It happens when one starts opening; it is a good sign, a confirmatory sign. Soon the fever will be
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