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moment. The question is that if he is available to you in this moment, love him. Don't waste this moment in thinking and worrying about the future, because this is suicidal. Don't pay a single thought to the future -- because nothing can be done about it, so it is a sheer wastage of energy.
Love this man and be loved by him. This is my understanding: that if you live this moment totally, there is every possibility that in the next moment the person may be still available. I say maybe. I can't promise you -- maybe. But the possibility is more because the next moment is going to come out of this one. If you have loved the man and the man feels blessed, and the relationship has been a beautiful experience, an ecstasy, then why should he leave you?
In fact if you go on worrying, you are making him, forcing him, to leave you. And if you have wasted this moment, the next moment will come out of this wastage; it is going to be rotten.
And that is how one becomes self-predictable. You go on fulfilling your own prophecies. The next moment you say, 'Yes, I was saying from the very beginning that this relationship was not going to last. Now it is proven.' Then you feel very good in a way; you feel you have been very clever and wise. In fact you have been foolish, because it is not that you predicted anything. You forced this event to happen because you wasted the time that was given to you, the opportunity. So love him and forget about the future. Just drop the whole nonsense of thinking about it.
If you can love, love. If you cannot love, forget this man, find somebody else -- but don't waste time. The question is not of this lover or that lover -- the question is of love. Love fulfills, people are just excuses. But the whole thing depends on you, because whatsoever you are doing with Veeresh, you will go on doing with another if you change lovers. So why not try with Veeresh? He is as perfect a man as you can find; a beautiful person with much understanding, and mature in many ways.
So love him and make him so happy that the happiness itself creates the possibility of him staying. If you make a person happy why should he leave you? But
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