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woman, do. Because she is the cause of the whole love affair....
So never feel angry and never feel bad about that. It is perfectly good, leave it as it is. Go deep with appetite, with longing, with passion. Don't ask for length, ask always for depth. It is only out of depth that this contentment arises, not out of length. And one cannot have both, remember. The mind would like to have both -- why not both? But one cannot have both because it is one energy: either it spreads this way or it spreads that way. Or if you spread it both ways, then both will be half-half; the length will not be enough and the depth will be not be enough.
Just enjoy as it is: enjoy this hankering, this constant desire to have more. That too is good, enjoy that too. And you can reap a great harvest out of this relationship. Don't force in any way -- knowingly, unknowingly -- the man to be with you more. Otherwise sooner or later he will be finished with you, you will be finished with him and then again one starts looking somewhere else.
Never finish a relationship. That's what the mind is asking: have it totally so it is finished. Squeeze all the juice out of it; but then it is gone! In this way it will remain alive, it will never be killed. For one week you cannot see him and then for one weekend you can. For seven days you are longing for him and the heart is thirsty. And then you jump upon each other! This is good. This is my idea of how things should be.
It is always good to never live together with the person you love. It will be hard but life only comes to people who are ready to go the hard way. There are no short-cuts in life. Just enjoy it. And bring the man sometime here, mm?
[A sannyasin, newly returned, says he and his girlfriend are going through many changes. He realises he uses her, and also Osho, to fill his needs.]
A few things.... One: ordinarily ninety-nine percent of what people call love is nothing but need. So don't be too much disturbed by it, it is natural. The state of the mind of humanity is such that that is the natural state. And because you need, you naturally become dependent. Hence all love creates bondage and the
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