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a pattern by repeating it again and again.
A few things have to be understood. First, love is not compassion. You think compassion is love. And love needs no rationalisation. It is simply there. It is its own proof, self-evidently there. It is enough unto itself. Compassion can become part of it, but they are not synonymous. Love is more than compassion.
You always become interested in people who need your sympathy -- and there is nothing wrong in it. Give them food and shelter -- but don't pretend that you are in love. If you see a beggar on the street, you can help him, but help him and forget him -- no need to make it a love affair. The beggar will feel obliged to you, and he cannot escape from you because he has become dependent on you. You have become his mother, and you enjoy being mother, you enjoy being superior. It becomes an ego trip. He is an inferior person because he is dependent on you, and he has to go on pretending he loves you. Deep down he will know that love has been purchased, and he will cheat you. He will do everything that he can to harm you, because he feels hurt. You have become superior because you have money and he has none. So he goes on pretending he loves you.
Love is not that cheap. And you want it very safe. If love is not happening, don't force it.
... I know you are in need of a lover -- so you imagine anything is love. Someone shows their gratefulness and you immediately think it is love because you are in need.
It is as if someone is hungry, and even bread on the rubbish heap looks like beautiful food. You are hungry, that I know. You need love, that I know. Everybody needs love.
But this is not going to help you at all. By and by it will become a dead routine, and you will continuously repeat the vicious circle. Get out of it.
Love happens when two persons meet on the same ground, are equal. Between a superior and an inferior person sympathy is possible, not love. So don't go on fooling around. Stop all this nonsense.
Be loving, be available, be open, and then someday with somebody on equal terms it can happen. When you love somebody, you do whatsoever you can, you give
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