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you do whatsoever you can, you give all you can, but you feel grateful that he has accepted. You don't expect even a thankyou from him -- that will look too superficial. So somehow you have to destroy this association between sympathy and love.
[She answers: At this point I can't discriminate.]
Then you just do one thing: for six months no love affair -- so at least the vicious circle is broken. You can be as sympathetic as you want, but no love affair.
In these six months somebody will happen, otherwise not. A real lover will not like you to be a mother no. He is in search of a beloved. A mother he has already -- enough! He is trying to escape from the mother really. He is in search of a woman who can save him from the mother -- and again here is a woman who wants to be a mother. That's why you always seek persons who want a mother. You don't look for people who are not interested in your money and your help. You go on finding beggars, this and that.
So for six months you stop completely -- no love affair.
[She asks: You mean no sex or... ]
Yes, no sex or love affair. It may not be that long, but just become as hungry as possible for love. It will be hard, but to break any vicious circle is always hard.
And there are so many beautiful people here that you can't find anywhere else.
... It may not be six months, I may allow you after six weeks. But let it be six months in the mind, so that an appetite arises and you go almost mad, and this circle is broken.
If you go on making love to strangers, this and that, you are simply not respectful towards yourself. You are harming yourself. Just wait for six months. If is not too long -- it can save your whole life. The way you are going, you are wasting your whole life.
Remain available, make friends, and if one day you feel that some equal person comes, who is not inferior in any way, then come to me and tell me. If I feel it is right, I will allow vou -- but let me be there. Left to yourself you will not be able to come out of the vicious circle. But if I am there I will not allow you to continue in it.
It is hard, but there is nothing that can
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