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first, you need not be troubled by it. It is not something that you can be held responsible for. But I'm not saying that you have no responsibility. You can be of much help.
First thing: tell them to commit her to the hospital. Because it is always the family that drives people mad. Who else can drive a person mad? Strangers cannot drive you mad; only the people with whom you are related too deeply can drive you mad -- the husband, the children, the mother, and relatives, friends, mm? Everybody lives in a small world of those people one is related to. And if somebody starts falling mentally ill that means that atmosphere has to be changed immediately. Otherwise the more they take care, the more they will drive her mad. She has to be taken out of that climate immediately... and that will help tremendously.
It may not be in a hospital -- she can move to somewhere else. She can go to one of our ashrams there, some commune. Something totally different is needed so she can regain a hold on herself. It helps immediately. Because basically individuals are not ill: basically families arc ill. Whenever an individual starts showing symptoms of illness, that simply shows that that member is the weakest link in the family... more vulnerable, that's all. She has to be taken out of the family.
No need to hospitalise her because sometimes the word 'hospital' creates much trouble. But she has to be taken out of the family atmosphere, and the husband has not to follow her, to take care of her, no. She can be moved to anywhere -- she can go to suryodaya just near london, it is a beautiful place. She can move there and sannyasins can take care of her; there will not be a problem at all. Or if she can come here, that will be the best. Just call her here and she will be okay immediately; there will be no trouble at all.
[The sannyasin says that between bouts of craziness her sister insists she is copying with the children and her husband.]
That coping may be the whole problem....
Then it becomes a strain. You can cope only to a certain limit and then you fall flat; then you move to the other extreme.
Write to her husband, to your mother,
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