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you are her security, you are her all. Even if she knows that this is not true she goes on playing the game, and the man feels very good. Men are great fools! They feel very good. Every man likes that idea. Every man likes, needs at least one woman to say that he is the greatest man in the world. They would like all women to say it to them but that will be too difficult; nobody can afford that so easily. But if at least one woman as a representative of the whole woman-kind, says 'You are the greatest', looks up to them, it makes them feel great.
But if you are too sure of yourself they will not like you because then their egos will not be fulfilled. And I am not saying to fulfill their egos, no. But you will be unnecessarily miserable for your whole life. Come down from your performing self: become more a participant rather than a performer.
Be humble. And it is very good sometimes to commit mistakes. It makes others feel very good: so you are also human. You are trying to be inhuman or superhuman; that's why that 'no' comes again and again. You can't allow yourself to go to somebody, because that means you need him. Not that he will reject you. He has said he is open and he means it and you know whenever you come he will be happy. But still coming to him, going to him on your own means you need him. and you can't give that much importance to him. If he wants you to come, he should come and persuade you. That's why women don't take the initiative. They miss much, because half the joy of life consists in taking the initiative. Whosoever takes the initiative will have more joy.
Don't be worried! When you feel like going, go! There is no need even to ask! Why make yourself split in two? -- the one who asks and the one who answers. You can ask me and I always say yes to happiness. I can give you 'yes' in writing, so whenever you are in some difficulty and your no is coming, just read it....
Right? Good! I will give you 'yes'!
[Osho writes 'YES' on a paper for her.]
Keep this with you, mm ? This is a permit, a licence. Right?
And you can show it to anybody! Good!
Only Losers Can Win in This Game
Chapter #2
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