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over you, without any kind of possession -- either he understands and loves you with all your freedom, or it is finished!
And never settle for anything less... because this is the problem every lover faces sooner or later and the sooner you face it the better, because there will be less entanglement. The problem is of love and freedom... always!
You would like to be with the person you love but not at the cost of freedom. At the cost of freedom love becomes a slavery -- and nobody can love slavery, nobody! Those who love slavery are below human. They lose all dignity; they don't respect themselves.
Love is perfectly good but it can never become a higher value than freedom. Freedom remains the ultimate value. If love comes as a shadow to freedom it is beautiful. If it comes and murders freedom it is ugly. Then you will suffer very much and you will not be able to enjoy it.
So just go and make things clear. Tell him that you love him but that freedom remains the ultimate value. Tell him you love him but you don't want to possess him and neither would you like to be possessed by him. It will remain an affair between two freedoms so nobody will possess the other.
If freedom remains intact love is benediction. If freedom cannot remain intact, then remember well, that man does not love you, because how can a man love you and destroy your freedom? That is impossible; it is inconceivable. Then all that love is a pretension -- just a pretension to dominate you, to possess you, to enslave you. Beware of it! Even if you love the person never sacrifice freedom, because once you sacrifice freedom love will not be worth enjoying at all.
So go; make things clear. And don't cry and weep before him, otherwise he will think you are ready to become a slave. It is perfectly okay: here you can cry and weep, but not with him; you have to be very clear. It is better to be clear in the beginning rather than getting involved in it and suffering later on. Then coming out of it becomes difficult and one thing leads to another.
Just make everything clear -- that you love him and you would like to be with him, but you would like to be with him
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