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of your mind, you will see it happening continuously....
You are in love with a person, and soon you start feeling you need your own space. That is the need for meditation -- you may not look at it that way, but it is exactly that. Being together, you start feeling suffocated, crowded, crushed. And you start seeing the point that you need your own space. You would like to be alone for a few days.
Just the other day, I received a letter from a woman sannyasin. Her lover has left for the West and she was very much worried and tense, naturally, because she will be alone here without the lover. And he had to go for some reasons, for some responsibilities -- he would have liked to stay with her, but he had to go. So she was very much troubled, in pain.
But she was surprised -- when he left she felt like a burden had left her. She felt very good. She wrote a letter to me, feeling very guilty. Seems a kind of betrayal: your lover has gone and you are feeling happy! You should be crying, you should be weeping, you should be walking around with a long face so everybody knows that your lover is gone. And she is feeling so happy, as she has never felt in her life!
Now what is happening? No need to feel guilty. If people are aware, this will happen to everybody. Whenever your lover goes you will dance. So at last you can be alone! It can't be for long -- within a few days you will be tired of your aloneness and you will start hankering for the lover. This is a polarity.
Love creates the need to be alone -- to be alone is bound to happen through love. And when you are alone, aloneness creates the need to love -- it is bound to happen through being alone. They are partners, partners in the same business.
Zen says: People who have escaped to the Himalayas and are sitting in their caves alone are just as stupid as the people who are chasing women or chasing men and thinking that they are living their life. Both are stupid! because both have chosen the polarities.
And it is proved by thousands of years of experience that the man who sits in the cave in the Himalayas only thinks of the woman and nothing else. And of course he becomes
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