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false problems, vou will create others. So the first and foremost thing is to penetrate into what is the real problem and to see it as it is.
To see the false as false is the beginning of the vision of being able to see truth as truth. To see the false as false is on the way. Then one can see what is true.
If you see that there is no love, the problem takes a totally new turn. Then it is not a question of the other person. It is a basic question about you. Why can't you love? It can become a self-growth. Then you have to find ways of loving. It is not a question of one person -- because you can change the person but you will remain the same. You will go on playing the same game.
The real question is why love is not flowering in you.
Once you understand this, the right question has been caught red-handed and things start moving. Just go on watching it and whenever you see that you are doing something which is against love, drop it; don't do it. That is the beginning. It is difficult to Love in the beginning, but even if we can drop unloving acts, that will be a great help.
We don't love. But that is not the only problem. We unlove: a negative energy moves.
So first start dropping anything that you feel is unloving: any attitude any word that you have used out of habit but which now suddenly you feel is cruel -- it is not loving, it is not kind. Drop it! Feel sorry that you used it. Always be ready to say, 'I am sorry.'
Very few people are capable of saying, 'I am sorry.' Even when they appear to be saying it, they are not. It may be just a social formality. To really say 'I am sorry' is a great understanding. You are saying that you have done. something wrong -- and you are not just trying to be polite. You are withdrawing something. You are withdrawing an act that was going to happen. You are withdrawing a word that you had uttered.
So withdraw unlove, and as you do you will see many more facts -- that it is not really a question of how to love. It is only a question of how not to love. It is just like a spring covered with stones and rocks. You remove the rocks and the spring starts flowing. It is there.
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