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when one emotion disappears, others also disappear; they exist together.
When you meditate, by and by you will become true. Sometimes when you feel angry you will say that you are angry. Of course he will feel offended because he was not expecting it, but don't be worried about that. Simply say that now you will be true, sincere, and that whatsoever is happening to you, you will say. Say to yourself that you will not go on repressing -- whatsoever the cost.
I'm not saying to be angry. I'm saying that when anger is there, don't hide it. When love is there, don't hide that either. You will become more angry, more loving, more quarrelling, more kind -- all together.
An authentic person is alive, and whatsoever happens, he allows it to happen. It is risky -- that's why people become inauthentic. That is less risky but then life loses all meaning. One is simply dragging oneself, somehow pulling.
For three months you will be in America, and that will be good. So for three months be true and be alive. It will be easier to be alive in America than in India. India is so dead and has remained dead for so long that it is almost difficult to become real, flowing, authentic, here. In America it will be easier for you to become real, authentic, flowing. Forget all the nonsense that has been conditioned into your mind. Then come back and whatsoever happens, face it.
I am here to help you to face reality.
I am not here to help you to adjust with all sorts of things. I am not in favour of adjusting. If something is becoming ugly between two persons and it is impossible to come to a loving relation-ship, then separate. Why cripple each other? Why destroy each other's life? That is very very bad. It is not compassion -- it is murder.
If I cannot live with someone and the whole twenty-four hours have become poisoning, then I am poisoning the person and it will be a friendly act to remove myself so I am not poisoned and the other is not poisoned. Either come to a loving relationship or separate. No relationship is, in itself, the end.
Love is the end.
If the relationship is fulfilling love, then good, beautiful. If it is
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