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see that meditation is missing. If nothing is going well, then it is okay. One settles with one's sadness, one's closedness. But right now, because of this group, one wing has started moving. You felt very positive in the group because meditation has worked and some catharsis has happened. Now the other wing is needed.
So seek somebody. And have you booked for other groups? [she shakes her head.] First seek a lover. Let that be your group right now, and then we will see. And when you have found him, bring him !
[A sannyasin said that she was in the middle of a law course... she would like to remain here and discontinue her studies but she did not want to upset her mother for whose sake she was studying law.]
My feeling is that one should always listen to one's heart. No other considerations are significant.
It is your life. If you don't want to go into law, then don't go. Once you enter into something which you don't like, your whole life is distracted. One can manage to persuade the mother and the father; that's not a big thing. But if you don't want to do it, then don't. Do something else that you want to do.
Life is very precious. One should not waste it on formalities. This is just a formality -- that your parents will be happy. And I cannot see how they can be happy if you are not; I cannot see. If you are unhappy and you don't want to do it but are doing it as a duty, they cannot be really happy. They can be happy only if you are happy.
[She replies: My mother doesn't feel the same.]
But that is not the point. That is her problem. If you want to finish the course, then go. But be alert. You may be simply throwing the responsibility on your mother. I want you to become responsible.
If you want to do it, go. It is better to join the studies and not to waste one year. You can come here again; that's not a difficulty. But if it is just because of the mother and you don't really want to do it, then I don't think that it is necessary. Then just be here, meditate, do the groups. And when you go back, mothers can always be managed. That's not a problem.
If you cannot manage your mother, you will be in
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