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and because of that tension you will not be happy. You can do it but you will not be happy... and then it is pointless. If you are not happy, it is not going to help anybody.
The healer should be a very very happy person: flowing, cheerful, at ease. The therapist should be such that in his contact everybody becomes relaxed. Mm? and that is the very quality of happiness: if you are happy, people feel relaxed with you. They start opening, they open up. They have nothing to hide from you, they are not afraid of you, they don't defend themselves.
If you are too much of a groupleader they start defending. When they start defending you become more aggressive; when you become more aggressive, they become closed. A groupleader has to be a person who is not really a leader at all -- at the most a facilitator, at the most a coordinator, at the most a midwife, but not a leader. The very word 'leader' is political and dangerous; it is an ego-word.
You can become a therapist, the possibility is there, and I will make one out of you, but wait. Here just relax, don't become tense about it. Next time you go to Europe, continue working there. Mm? Good!
The Further Shore
Chapter #2
Chapter title: To be with a master is just a device
2 June 1977 pm in Chuang Tzu Auditorium
Archive code: 7706025
ShortTitle: SHORE02
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[A sannyasin says he is continually changing his mind about staying or going to the West: So there's never an acceptance of the way the thing is. It's always wanting the other, and then as soon as that possibility happens, I don't want that either.]
One has to go through this suffering; this is part of human growth. By and by one learns that it is futile, but one always learns the hard way because one learns only by one's own experience. A thousand and one times you will experience the stupidity of it. Only then slowly, slowly, does it penetrate into the unconscious and become an experience.
Just by passing through a certain situation, it does not become an experience. It touches you only superficially and passes by. But many times it will
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