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total freedom with sex, tantra will not be needed at all. Children are more sexual than grown-up people... repressed, but more sexual. In fact their sexuality is total sexuality... and that has been one of the basic misunderstandings in the modern world. Even freud was not able to understand that point.
A child is not genital. His sexuality is total, his whole body is sexual. You see a small child sucking his thumb or toe. Sucking the toe is almost as joyful as masturbation for a small child. His whole body is genital, each cell of the body is sexual. His sexuality is not confined yet, not local yet; he is sexual all over. You tickle him from anywhere and he is sexual.
Because of this, there has been a great misunderstanding about the children: people think they are not sexual. They are not genital, that's true. Later on the sexuality will come more and more to the genitals, will become narrowed, confined, local.
Then your head is not sexual, your hands are not sexual, your body loses its erotic quality... and that is not good! That's why people cannot attain to a total orgasm. How can you attain to a total orgasm if your body has lost erotic qualities? You can attain to total orgasm only when the whole body functions erotically.
Women are more erotic than men -- their sex is less local than man's. Man's sex becomes very very localised: his whole idea of sex is genital -- the remaining parts of his body become dead and dull. That's why women remain more beautiful than men, remain more alive than men, remain younger than men and live longer than men.
One of the reasons is that their sexuality still remains unconfined to the genitals -- not totally unconfined, but still unconfined, more unconfined than man. They have more erotic zones in the body still alive. A woman can be as erotic in her ear lobes or in her neck as on her lips or breasts. Man is completely dead and dull. But a child, boy or girl, is completely erotic, totally erotic.
The society makes sex localised. It is afraid of that much eroticism, it is afraid of that much joy all over the body. So it helps to cripple it and forces sexuality to be in the service of
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