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can have a small board on you saying 'I am twelve years old. Treat me that way -- don't treat me as a grown-up'. People will enjoy it!
[The enlightenment intensive group is present. One participant, returning to the West, says she does not love her family to whom she is returning shortly. She discovered that she knows nothing -- does not know what love is, what attachment is.
Osho says this is a good situation. Now her mind is a clean slate, the old building is demolished. All false distinctions have to be done away with before we can see clearly; this is the first part of the work. Then only can the second phase, of creation, begin.
And families, he says, enforce love. When you are small, your parents demand love and respect from you. You may not feel it, but you compromise between your real feelings and what is expected of you because you are dependent on them for your survival.
The sannyasin says that she is repeating exactly the same pattern with her child. Osho says of course we will repeat the same patterns -- unless we ourselves change.... ]
Passing through groups these structures are destroyed. Again you are thrown back into your childhood, again you are made available to alternatives, again you start seeing for the first time without any prejudice. Now your life is not at stake: if you don't love your parents, your life is not at stake. Now you can afford not to love. To understand this -- that now you can afford not to love -- will give you a freedom. And this very freedom can grow into love again, but that will be totally different love and it will not be a discipline. You follow me?
Now you are free to decide: if you love, you love; if you don't love, you don't love. And I'm not saying that if you don't love you are committing some crime. What can you do? Love is not something that one can do. If it is there, it is there; if it is not there, it is not there, and there is no condemnation in it.
So for the first time you are capable of taking account of your life. You can see whether you love or you don't love... now no more deception. If you don't love, you don't love. And don't think that you are committing
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