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And don't think that you are committing some crime or some immorality; it's perfectly okay.
If you accept this, then love can grow.
[She says: It was actually my husband I was talking about, not my parents.]
It is okay, husband or... that doesn't matter, that doesn't make any difference. That too is the same game we go on playing. Because we are very very repressed, all our games are false games.
Take hold of yourself, of your freedom. There is no need to disturb anybody, because they will not be able to understand; they have not passed through the things you have. There is no need to disturb anybody -- just keep this in your inner world. Become more and more alert and watch.
If love grows, allow it to grow; if it doesn't grow, don't be worried. But don't force it, that's what I am insisting on: don't force it this time. Wait, let the right season come for love to grow. If it grows, good. And it always grows: if we can wait, if we can be patient, it always grows, because nobody can live without love. Love is such an inner necessity. It is like breathing: you cannot live without breathing, you cannot live without love.
So just wait. There may be an interval of a few days, a few weeks, and in that interval don't say anything to anybody. On the surface go on playing the same game, but now this will be a game and you know that it is a game. Simply go on playing the game in the same way, inside go on watching. Inside you know that now you are completely...
[She says: I can even pretend that I love as long as I'm alert about it being a game.]
Pretension is not the right word then, mm? It is just a game... it is just a game. Pretension means that you have taken it seriously. This is just a game. And I am saying to continue to play the game so that you can have a little chance to grow into love. The love will come... and I'm not saying that it will come for your husband; it may come for your husband, it may not come. It may come for somebody else. I'm not saying anything about for whom it will come. One thing is certain: love will come. It is possible for your husband, maybe, for your children, for your parents, maybe
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