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relationship. I can deal with it in the moment, but I can't sustain it... my family... relationship... ]
In fact this is something very beautiful that is happening. It will be scary, frightening, because you will not know how to cope with it, but this is one of the most important things that can happen to a person: living in the moment, and moment to moment.
There is no need to sustain anything. All effort to sustain something creates falsity. The very idea of sustaining something means the past will continue to dominate the future, the dead will dominate the alive. Live moment to moment. If something is worth sustaining, it will be sustained -- not that you have to sustain it. When you are needed to sustain it, that means the thing is not worth sustaining. Now you are just sustaining it because you have decided to do so.
Anything that is really your passion will continue. For example, if you are in love it will continue; you need not sustain it. The question of sustaining arises only when love disappears but the old promises are there and you have been saying things which are no more true. But your ego says 'You have to sustain it -- you have been saying these things.' You have said to this man 'I will live for you and die for you' and now you don't feel anything for the man. Just the ego says 'Don't go against your own word -- sustain it. This is your commitment.' But then you become false. And then you are manipulating something which is no more there, which has disappeared. A flower that used to be there has withered away; now you are pretending that it is still there. This is how everybody has become a hypocrite.
And sooner or later you will take revenge on the person, because it is he whose presence is making you false. You can never forgive the person, and unconsciously you will take revenge, you will start being angry, and using small excuses you will get into a rage. And the reason is not that the person is doing anything to you: the reason is that you are being false and your whole being is against being false. This is the way one should be. Courage will be needed.
And I am not saying that the relationship is to disappear;
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