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ask for it. Not that it doesn't come, it comes more than you could have ever asked, but you simply give... you enjoy giving. When you enjoy giving you will find somebody of the same quality because the same attracts the same: you will find somebody who also enjoys giving. And then you can both give to each other and still there will be no clinging. When you are interested in getting then there is clinging. There is possessiveness, jealousy, and all kinds of uglinesses enter from the background.
Go... and this time you will be able to see that that love is not going to satisfy you. I will haunt you! That love is not going to satisfy you.
... That is not only your problem. It is the problem of the whole humanity because we have been brought up in wrong ways, we have been conditioned in wrong ways; from the very beginning we have been poisoned.
[Because parents demand love from the child, the child feels that love is a duty and that unless you demand love, you don't get it, Osho continues. He learns to be diplomatic, learns that if you don't feel love you can pretend to and that is accepted; hence he is taught to be hypocritical and inauthentic. So everyone is demanding love and no one has any to give... but we pretend in order to get. A great unlearning has to happen, says Osho -- of all one's parental teachings; hence Buddha's insistence that you kill your parents and Jesus' that you 'hate' your mother and father.
First you need to love yourself, to learn happiness, then you attract people and love.... ]
The english word 'magnetism' comes from a root which is very meaningful; it comes from 'magi'. It comes from the same root from where 'magic' comes and 'magistrate' and 'meister'; it comes from 'magi'.
Magi means one who has attained to himself. It actually means an enlightened person, hence the word 'magic'. When somebody becomes a magi, he has a magic around himself, hence the word 'magnetism'. He becomes a magnet: people start being pulled... not that he tries to pull them.
So first you have to fall in love with yourself, first you have to become a happy person, and that is very simple. For a few months forget about
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