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freedom to yourself. We can give ourselves only that which we give to others. If you are not giving freedom to him, if you are demarking a line beyond which he is not to go then you will not be free yourself. You will also follow those lines. Give him utter freedom and you be utterly free. You will both be happy out of it.
Don't ask anything that is unnatural to him, and don't ask anything that is unnatural to you either. Just be natural, spontaneous, flowing, loving, enjoying. And I am not saying that it is always a joy. No affair, no love affair is always a joy; it cannot be. There are moments, dark moments, moments of pain and hurt and aches and bruises. There are dark nights but they are part of the whole game. Without the dark night you cannot have a bright morning, and without the hurt, without the pain, you cannot enjoy either They go together. Only dead people go beyond pain and then they go beyond pleasure too.
So accept this polarity but let freedom always be respected. That's what love is: a respect for other's freedom, a respect for other's nature. Don't become each other's gaolers. And it is a good opportunity for you to be in, mm? because it will be difficult to find a crazy man like [him]. He can teach you a few crazy things.
In India all people are sane, mm? -- that is the misery of this country. Only prose exists, poetry has disappeared, so only marriage exists, love has disappeared. Only the market exists, the temple is no more there, or it has become part of the market.
So love each other but love out of freedom, and out of love let freedom grow.
[A sannyasin says that she is upset because she split up with her boyfriend. He still wants to be together. She doesn't know if she loves him. She says: I don't even know what love is.]
That's right... that's a very right statement. It is true about everybody: nobody knows what love is, because to know love is to know God. To know love is to know all that is worth knowing. People are simply in illusion when they think they know love.
Love is the last thing and the ultimate. Beyond that there is nothing left to know, so love cannot be known as easily as
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