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allows you to be with him and you are not yet capable of that, that will be compassion from his side, not love, because you will be very low down, deep in the valley, and he will be on the sunlit peaks. So that will not satisfy you either, because how can compassion satisfy? It hurts really.
So he is right when he says that this problem will be there with anybody and everybody. The only choice is to find a person whom you like, whom you like immensely. Don't think of love at this stage. At this stage only think of liking, because it is better to suffer with a person whom you like than to suffer with a person whom you dislike! (laughter) That's the only choice possible. At this stage nothing more is possible, and I'm very realistic sol don't give you illusions, mm? -- this is how things are.
A very rich man was dying. He was telling his son 'Give heed to what I say this is my whole life's experience -- that money is useless. I have all the wealth that one can desire but it has not given me anything.'
The son said, 'You are right, father, but still I would like to inherit all your wealth.'
The father said, 'Why? If you understand what I am saying, that it is meaningless and useless...'
The son said, 'The reason is that I would like to suffer in richness rather than in poverty! One has to suffer anyway, so why not suffer in richness?'
And I understand; his point is perfectly true. So the only thing that you can do is to choose a person whom you like. Suffering will be there, and suffering will be there because the other will start possessing you. Even sometimes when he says 'I give you freedom', he is not giving you because how can he give you freedom? The very statement 'I give you freedom', shows that he has already become your master. Who is he to give you freedom? How can he give you freedom? He has already encroached upon you. He has already become your master when he says, 'I give you freedom... I would like to give you freedom.'
What does it mean? Who are you and how can you give me freedom? I am free, you are free; nobody can give freedom. A given freedom is not a freedom at all. It is a new kind of slavery,
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